How To Get Up On The Right Side Of
The Bed More Often
23 September 2020
“Success in life is measured, most easily, by the number of days that a person is truly happy."-
One of the three pillars of living an extraordinary life, that we teach, is to Experience life at a deeper level.
Firstly, we want to Experience what we desire, and secondly, we want to Experience this, in all its colours, shades and dimensions.
Do you know that there is one simple way we can access both parts of this experience?
Before we reveal it, let’s explore the concept of “focus”.
We attract what we focus on.
Here are two examples that may remind you of that.
Remember when you were pregnant? What was your focus? Your swelling belly, the focus on life growing inside of you, right? Do you recall how you noticed how just about every woman you saw, seemed to be pregnant at the same time as you?? What you were
focusing on, expanded.
And how about when you were shopping for that matt black Honda CB1000R motorbike?
You probably saw every Honda motorbike on the road, and it was black!
So, if this is the case, then wouldn’t it be a cool thing, to create more of what we want in life, by focusing on it more? Absolutely!
That is why it is important to get mentally clear on what you want. That way, you will create those experiences faster. If you are unclear, unsure, indecisive, and have lots of options going on in your head, then that is what your experience will be unclear, confusing and busy.
The next part of the focus is easy once you have that mental clarity of what you want. It is the emotional component of focus. When you focus on the thrill and adventure of the ride on the bike, or the excitement and love you feel for your baby, you are experiencing emotion. This is why we want an experience - so we can feel a certain way. It makes sense then, that if we know that what we focus on expands, then focus on the emotional aspect is key, to manifesting more of that emotion.
What is the easiest way to focus on the desired experiences and their associated emotional triggers?
Yes, as simple as that.
We would like to share with you a personal story of how GRATITUDE, transformed both our lives. Before we met, both of us were soon to be empty-nesters, single yet clear on the loving relationship we each wanted. We met at a personal development meeting, and soon after, began working together on building a local charity. We became friends and decided one day, after another personal development course, to be each other’s gratitude buddy. Every evening, we texted one another 3 gratitudes each for the day. In doing so, we gained more and more clarity on what we wanted, by the simple exercise of focusing on what brought us joy, fulfillment, clarity, excitement, peace, contrast etc. We mention being grateful for “contrast” because, without the challenges and the disappointments, we would not have learnt, grown and become even clearer on what we did not want. The most beautiful experience to come out of our gratitude practice, is that, a couple of years after we began the practice, we experienced love for one another, and have since then, and for the past 4 years, manifested our most ideal love relationship.
Pretty cool, huh?
Here are 5 ways you can practice gratitude each day, so you too can experience more of what you want, and deepen the experience:
- Be silent often. Stop to listen, smell, see, feel, taste what is bringing you joy, wonder and awe right now.
- Ask yourself high-quality empowering questions, like, “What did I experience today that brought a smile to my lips?” “Who is in my life that I am deeply grateful for?” “What opportunity did I have to learn something about myself?”
- Have an accountability buddy, like we did, and share the gratitude around.
- Journal your gratitudes, morning and night.
- Make it a practice as you wake, to pop a smile on your face, and to say, “Thank you.” for at least one thing. This can be as simple as having a nice warm bed to sleep in, the sound of the birds singing, or even gratitude that you are alive with another day to experience life! And guess what? You will always get up on the right side of the bed!
This should not feel like yet another chore to do. As Ray Bradbury so aptly says,
‘‘You can make yourself happy or miserable – it's the same amount of effort.’’
Short term benefits are that you feel great. It is very difficult to feel worry or fear when you are grateful. A long -term benefit is that you will recondition your mind to consistently on the lookout for reasons to be happy and grateful. You will become like a human gratitude detector, picking up more of life’s blessings, attracting them into your life. You will know when you are mastering this practice. In your deepest darkest hours, when you can look at the situation through the lens of gratitude, and can see the silver lining of the dark cloud, you will know that your practice of gratitude has gifted you with one of, if not, the most powerful tool of resilience.
Life is truly what you make of it. The more moments of your day you can spend cultivating an attitude of gratitude and positivity, the happier you will be. The more you enjoy life and its journey, the less you will focus on the destination. As Thich Nhat Hanh so beautifully reminds us,
‘‘There is no way to happiness; happiness is the way.’’
With all our heart,
Michelle & Mark